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Breathe in Hope

April 25, 2018 By denman Leave a Comment

Behold, I am doing a new thing;

    now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?

I will make a way in the wilderness

    and rivers in the desert.

~Isaiah 43:19(ESV)

If you step outside, you can feel it.

Breathe in deep.

There’s a sense of crisp newness in the air.

The bluebonnets, our state flower, are in full bloom. The Texas Mountain Laurel’s blooms, with their unique grape scent, have already come and gone, replaced by the Wisteria, which suddenly seems to be on every street corner. The side of all the roadways are littered with every sort of wildflower,waves of blue mixed in with every color flower imaginable. The grass is vibrant green, the trees are lush with new leaves. Cardinals are twittering about. The sunrises and sunsets are spectacular. Things that looked dead in the winter are springing back to life. There is a sense of hope hanging in the air. A sense of expectancy. Anything is possible!

The whole earth cannot help but declare the glory of God with its magnificent display of new blooms.

IMG_8259I can’t get enough of the outdoors right now. The kids have taken to doing their homework outside, just so they can soak up this gorgeous weather. I always wonder why we do school in the spring? We should have a long spring break, and instead school during the hot summer months when no one wants to be outside!

Grumpiness seems to fall away in the spring.

People are smiling more, their steps seem lighter.

Energy seems to be more abundant. Forgiveness seems easier outdoors.

How can you hold on to a frown with all this new beauty surrounding you?

Rid yourselves of all the offenses you have committed,

and get a new heart and a new spirit.

Why will you die, people of Israel?

 ~Ezekiel !8:31

Nothing Shall Separate Us From the Love of Christ

April 18, 2018 By Sarah Denman Leave a Comment

O Joy, that seekest me through pain,

I cannot close my heart to Thee;

I trace the rainbow through the rain,

And feel the promise is not vain

That morn shall tearless be.

~George Matheson

The other day while putting away clean dishes, I did my normal clumsy thing and accidentally knocked a Corelle bowl off my counter. I cringed as it fell, watched it instantly shatter into so many uncountable pieces. Even after cleaning up, I am still finding tiny fragments of that bowl in weird places.

The image of it falling, the sound and sight of it shattering has stayed with me all week.

It was a good visual of how, in just a moment, a life – a heart- can be shattered, changed forever.

The moment I answered my phone and learned Kevin, my brother in law, had been killed in a car accident.

The moment Kevin died.

On April the 21st, it will be one year.

One whole year without him.

How can just one year bring so many heartaches and changes? Too many shattered pieces lost, with no chance to put any of it back together.

The pain of this last year has been almost unbearable at times. Pain that is unexplainable, really.

The absence of his presence tangible and heartbreaking – Too many firsts without him: milestones, birthdays and holidays, kid’s games, and so many more moments where you look up, once again startled with the sad realization that he is not there, isn’t coming. Not then, not ever. Every time it’s a sucker punch to the gut, always a surprise.

One year later, it is still so very raw and painful.

Time is merciless. It keeps soldiering on while kids grow up, and we do life day by day.

Each day is still filled with the stark pain of his never ending absence. Sometimes it feels like he is just running an errand or at work and will come soon. Then reality slams into us- often at the oddest moments. He’s not and he is not coming.

Hope shattered again, some days it’s all you can do to put one foot in front of the other.

So many have said the second year without a loved one is even harder than the first year.

How can that even be possible?

On one hand, I cannot imagine how.

But on the other hand, looking ahead at another year, more milestones, more holidays, more changes, more of everything without him seems unfathomable and unbearable.

One thing I do know is that God has been here through the pain. He has walked with us – carried us, really – through this last year. He has promised not to forsake us and has wrapped his arms around us in our suffering. Knowing that He goes with us and before us gives my heart hope, hope that we must cling to in order to get through each and every day.

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors

though him who loved us.

For I am convinced that

neither death nor life,

neither angels or demons,

neither the present nor the future,

nor any powers,

neither height nor depths,

nor anything else in all creation,

will be able to separate us

from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

~ Romans 8: 37-39

oops- update!

April 15, 2018 By denman Leave a Comment

A couple weeks ago, we were making some changes to my website that somehow triggered a mass email with several old posts. I am so sorry about that and any confusion it may have caused; I am technology challenged! : )

I  have been fairly silent on this blog, not for lack of want or lack of things to say – ha. This last year has brought about many changes. I hope to share more with you soon.

I appreciate all of you more than I can say. Your support and prayers have helped uphold and encourage us through many valleys.

With Love,

Sarah

Now if we are children, then we are heirs – heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his suffering in order that we may also share in his glory.

~ Romans 8: 17

Words Fail Me

May 31, 2017 By denman Leave a Comment

Shock.

Denial.

Anger.

Unbelief.

Regret.

Extreme Sadness.

Wash with too many tears.

Repeat.

Does God really collect our tears in a bottle? Are there enough bottles to hold them all?

Megan Coleman wrote an excellent article http://www.wearecolemans.com/10-ways-to-help-the-grieving/ about helping people grieve in which she cited a quote fromWhen People Grieve, “If the bereaved’s inner woundedness could be represented by an outward symbol, he or she would appear in a full body cast. There are many days when everything is hurting.” Many days, but not all days. The intensity of grief comes and goes, but the sadness is deep for a long time. “We grieve all endings on the way to new beginnings. And each grief changes us.”

Sometimes things come at you so sudden and unexpectedly that there is no way to reconcile them, to make sense of them.

The phone rang, a call from my youngest sister. I answered. In that moment, life, as we knew it, completely changed.

I couldn’t make sense of what she was saying, or rather, what she was yelling and sobbing.

The truth is, I still cannot make any of it make sense. It just doesn’t make any sense. This isn’t supposed to make sense.
I’ve been trying to write the next sentence, but no matter which way I spin it, it doesn’t sound right.

Just like that, my sister, the one who came right after me, became a widow with three small children.

How do you explain to your children, to my nephews and niece, that their daddy is gone, never coming home from work again? What do you say to the four year old who asks, “Did the bus die, too?” and the almost two year old who asks, “Daddy?” and a 13 year old on the verge of manhood who is scared and just plain misses his daddy, his buddy?

How do you comfort a sister who is left dazed, trembling, and so so confused as to how this could happen. How does she get through all the million ‘firsts’ before her with out her husband? How does she ever get used to not having her husband, her children’s daddy, there?

How? Just how.

We don’t know exactly what happened. We never will this side of heaven. What we do know is that his little car hit the back of a bus so hard that the bus moved several feet. They say he died instantly. That he never even saw the bus. It’s a very common cause of highway accidents. Lead cars will see danger and make precautions, often moving over without applying their brakes so there is no warning to the cars behind them. This leaves the cars behind with very little or no response time to react to the changed landscape ahead. And in that instant, everything changed.

This is territory we’ve never navigated. This is a pain so different than losing a parent or grandparent – those were painful on a completely different scale. The weight of this loss feels too big to carry. I feel lost in a foreign land of too many unknowns, too many tears, too many steps, and way too many uncountable whys.

As I grapple to understand this unbearable loss, I find myself seeking God, and His timeless Truths. I don’t know how else to get through this.

Things I know:
I know that, in everything, God will be glorified. I’ve seen this time and again through so many hard times.
He always brings good out of what Satan means for evil. Satan is out to kill and devour, it is what he does.
“As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good,
to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.” Genesis 50:20

I know that God is a good God. All of the time, God is good. He is our shepherd.
“The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.” Psalms 23:1

I know that He sees the bigger picture; what makes no sense to us, makes perfect sense to Him.
“All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalms 139:16

I know that God is sovereign. As a believer, I am barely able to grasp the meaning of this. But I know it means that HIS purposes always prevail. Not only does he see the big picture, He IS the big picture. He has a purpose, a plan and will carry it out according to His ways in His perfect timing. His ways are not our ways, his timing is not our timing, and we do not get to control him. He is not a puppet God. How thankful I am for that. As much as we might think we might like to be in control, we could not possibly do it.
“The LORD works out everything to its proper end—even the wicked for a day of disaster.” Proverbs 16:4

I know that He cares for the widows and has a special place in his heart for the fatherless.
“A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.” Psalms 68:5

I know that in the midst of this great and unbearable pain, He is here.
“Where can I go from your Spirit? What can I flee from your presence?” Psalms 139:7

I also know that He cares for our pain, that He sees us in our distress and He loves us and He comforts us.
“Jesus wept” John 11:35
‘Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles…’ 2 Corinthians 1:3-4
I know that He is able to provide for and protect this family. I see him quietly moving, declaring His glory. When we are weak, God is strong. He will be our strength in this time of trouble.
“Now to him is who is able to do immeasurably more than all we can ask or imagine according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21

I know that her children will be cared for. He loves them more than we do.
“I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.” Psalms 34:4

When we walked through the valley of cancer, my main fear centered on the well-fare of my children. We saw God raise up an army to fight along side us. He delivered me from ALL my fears, and he cared for my children in sweet ways beyond what I could have done or even thought to ask for.

I know He will do the same for this family.

Seeking Prayer Warriors:
Prayer warriors are needed to stand in the gap for this family, please consider coming alongside us as we pray for them. When pain of this magnitude threatens to overwhelm as if we are drowning in sorrow upon sorrow, He is there to lift us up. We need the Lord’s deliverance and his protection and provision. We need his redemptive love to cover this family in His mercy and grace. We need eyes to see, ears to ear, and a heart that is softened towards him. We need His Spirit to wrap us in the comfort that only comes from him.

“We do not make requests of you because we are righteous, but because of your great mercy. O Lord, listen! O Lord, forgive! O Lord, hear and act! For your sake, oh my God, do not delay, because your city and your people bear your name.” Daniel 9:18-19

Specific Prayer Requests:
Pray for everyone who is grieving to come to Truthful conclusions as they process this grief. Pray that He would un-root any lies and replace them with His Truth. Pray for the Spirit of Comfort to wrap them in His peace that surpasses all understanding.

Pray for financial provision and guidance. 

Pray for smooth transition of the paperwork and all the details of transferring and setting up things. There are many logistical and legal details to attend to, please pray for favor, wisdom, guidance and provision.

Pray that she will have space and time to grieve, and that He will guide her in any and all decisions that need to be made.

Pray as the Lord leads you to pray.

“You hem in in – behind and before you have laid your hand upon me.” Psalms 139:5

Practical Ways to Help:
Please prayerfully consider supporting this family however the Lord leads you.

We are working on a long term plan to support this family with the goal being for her to become self(God) sustainable. We hope to set up a widow’s fund for her (suggestions on how to do this are appreciated).

MEALS (so VERY appreciated right now)
South contact:  sarah@www.sarahdenman.com or (512) 627.3881
Central and North contact: micahbc@gmail.com or (512) 924.8201
Link to sign up:
http://www.TakeThemAMeal.com/meals.php?t=PRPC0313
gift cards to HEB or COSTCO also helpful.

DIAPERS
& wipes! The one year old wears size 3, Costco brand
-toilet paper and paper goods are also helpful.

GAS CARDS & GIFT CARDS for practical items (academy, Kohl’s, chick-fil-a, P Terry’s etc.)

BOOKs (or help) on how to help children grieve
We’ve had some very painful discussions with many heartbreaking moments concerning this. Much prayer covering is needed for their hearts, please.
I also appreciate the recommendations for counseling. If you have an affordable and reliable option for this, please email me. We are not at this point, but if she gets there, I would love to have a list of resources available to offer her.

DONATE to our FUNDRAISING GARAGE SALE (June 2-3)
We would love to take any and all of your CAST OFFS, both big and small! Contact me directly at 512.627.3881 or sarah@www.sarahdenman.com to arrange for drop off or pick up. And of course, come shop our sale! Email me directly for location details!

Finally, if you have any words of encouragement for my sister or her family, please send them to: sarah@www.sarahdenman.com or mail to: 780 FM 1626 #1436 Manchaca, TX 78652

Thank you for your love and support .
~ Sarah

“Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting.”
Psalms 139: 23-24

Spring has Sprung!

March 21, 2017 By Sarah Denman Leave a Comment

Behold, I am doing a new thing;

    now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?

I will make a way in the wilderness

    and rivers in the desert.

~Isaiah 43:19(ESV)

If you step outside, you can feel it.

Breathing deep, you inhale fresh clean air.  There’s a sense of newness hanging about.

The bluebonnets, our state flower, are in full bloom. The Texas Mountain Laurel’s blooms, with their unique grape scent, have already come and gone. They’ve been replaced by the purple blooms of the Wisteria, which seem to suddenly be on every other street corner. The side of all the roadways are littered with a variety of wildflowers. The grass is vibrant green, the trees are lush with new leaves. Cardinals are twittering about. The sky is bluest blue with sunrises and sunsets each more  spectacular than the last. Things that looked dead in the winter are springing back to life.

Hope  hangs in the air, filling our souls with a sense of expectancy – anything is possible!

The whole earth cannot help but declare the glory of God with its magnificent display of new blooms.

Spring Bluebonnets

We can’t get enough of the outdoors this spring. The kids have taken to doing their homework outside, just so they can soak up this gorgeous weather. Sam received  a hammock for a belated Christmas present, and if he could, he would remain in it all day. It has quickly become the most sought after place to sit in our home!

  People smile more, their steps feel a little lighter.

Forgiveness comes easier. With fresh air filling your lungs,

there’s no room for toxicity, and we exhale the old to make room for the new

.

How can you hold on to a frown surrounded with all of this new beauty?

spring blooms

Rid yourselves of all the offenses you have committed,

and get a new heart and a new spirit.

Why will you die, people of Israel?

 ~Ezekiel 8:31

  red sunset

Evening Spring

WARNING: Teen Driver Behind the Wheel!

March 12, 2017 By denman Leave a Comment

‘I constantly go between wanting you to be my baby forever,
and being excited about all the amazing things you’ll do in this life.’
~Anonymous
Those hands are not my hands.
They are the hands of my very own newly designated teen chauffeur, Grace.

It seems like just yesterday, she was my sweet baby girl. I actually sat in the backseat next to her – just so I could hold her tiny hand. Being our firstborn, she taught me how to be a mom. She broke us into this parenting gig while we sorted through our pre-conceived parenting ideals; basically, she exposed how little we actually knew about being a parent. How did we go from there to having a teen driver in our house? Someone told me, back when she was a baby, not to blink. You don’t get that when you’re a new parent, you’re just busy trying to successfully navigate each day’s challenges, content to survive.

Whose brilliant idea was it to put sixteen year-olds, with no prior driving experience, behind the wheel of a one-ton moving vehicle on actual roads? I look with pity at all the unsuspecting drivers surrounding us, oblivious that they’re sharing the road with a newbie.

I need a bumper sticker that says:
WARNING:
Teen Driver Behind the Wheel!
Come Near at Your Own Risk!

Do you know how scary it is to turn your keys over to a young person who has zero experience operating an automobile? When they handed the newly printed driver’s permit to her, my heart lurched with the realization that now I actually had to ride as the passenger while she drove me around!

*Gulp*

I told James he needs to up our life insurance. I am not sure he did it, because he is probably still reeling from the last time he turned the keys over to her. With wide eyes, he suggested he might need a stiff drink if we are going to continue these driving lessons.

As the parent of a new teen driver, I am learning all sorts of valuable nuggets, for instance:

Did you know that if you are turning right on red, you don’t have to stop at the light?
Did you know that the car can reach 40 mph, like, really fast?

What I am really wondering is this: why doesn’t the passenger side come equipped with an emergency brake? This should be standard.

I’ve said, ‘Brake. Brake… BRAKE!!’ more times than I can count. After one such incident, she turned to me and sweetly declared, “You’re just doing that on purpose to try to scare me.”

Me scaring her?! For reals? Where is my stiff drink?! I don’t even like stiff drinks, but I may start!

This season has me mourning the phasing out of my parental duties. I am grateful it happens in stages and not all at once. As parents, if we are doing our job well, we are constantly working ourselves out of a job. It’s harder to see this when they are little. But as they grow, the milestones start changing, and before you know it, you realize each one is a marked step towards independence. The best quote I’ve found to sum up the parenting journey is by Gretchen Rubin,

‘The days are long, but the years are short.’

Becoming the passenger, instead of the driver, will soon become the norm for me in all areas of her life. This is just one of the many scary stages of letting go, and letting her take the lead in my stead. Soon, she won’t even need me to be in the car with her. I hope when that time comes, she will still occasionally let me ride along with her, just for old time’s sake.

I’ll sign off with this meme I recently found that reminds me so much of our very own newly confident student driver :

Friend 1: I am a confident driver
Friend 2: You almost just ran someone over
Friend 1: Confidently though!

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Thank You

Thank you for being here and being part of our crazy, messy, and so beautiful journey.

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In him for His glory,
James and Sarah Denman

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